only a day after father's day.who will expect the lost of her father?and today, someone did lost her father.innalillah.
Having someone you used to talk to, chat with, a person who’s very important to a friend passed away is not that easy to accept. Indeed very shocking news.The news was very sudden and I was taken aback when I received the message. Today a sister’s friend, Hanna Saffi lost her father due to a massive heart attract (I believe).was a very shocking news. It was 4am in the morning when we get the news. Her dad was a very nice man and young.Who will expect that any way?but Allah knows better. And she is too very close to his father (still remember times when syifa told us she cried hardly when she have to stay in the UPM hostel away from the family and her dad pick her up directly-and days when we can hear her laugh hardly chatting to his father through skype while we were chat to syifa through skype too)
This news will definitely be her life’s most difficult experiences. i would not even be able to imagine that happens to me.She must be so much stronger. Wouldn't be able to even think how much you will miss a father soo much when you dont even have the chance to see him for the very last time,to listen to his voice and listen to what he have to say. I have no idea how to help or what to say,specially to her family when we visited,So nothing is said or done, for fear of saying the wrong thing. We pray and witness the grief while feeling helpless.
But i wish her to stay strong, for as far as what remain for her father is prayers from his children.
“Semoga Allah membesarkan pahalamu dan kesabaranmu dan semoga Allah memberimu penggantinya.”
ni mairah terbaca::
Comments to avoid when comforting the bereaved
- "I know how you feel." One can never know how another may feel. You could, instead, ask your friend to tell you how he or she feels.
- "It's part of God's plan." This phrase can make people angry and they often respond with, "What plan? Nobody told me about any plan."
- "Look at what you have to be thankful for." They know they have things to be thankful for, but right now they are not important.
- "He's in a better place now." The bereaved may or may not believe this. Keep your beliefs to yourself unless asked.
- "This is behind you now; it's time to get on with your life." Sometimes the bereaved are resistant to getting on with because they feel this means "forgetting" their loved one. In addition, moving on is easier said than done. Grief has a mind of its own and works at its own pace.
- Statements that begin with "You should" or "You will." These statements are too directive. Instead you could begin your comments with: "Have you thought about. . ." or "You might. . ."
